Where do you stand? queer ethos and accountability -- Social construction : I was discursively produced this way -- Queer theory : the audacity of difference -- Queer as youth : resisting the homonormative of identity development -- Bringing sexy back : sex, positivity, and the rejection of erotophobia -- iQueer : popular culture and therapeutic moments -- Bullies, bible-bangers and haters : when others don't want it to get better -- Resisting conclusions : continuing the conversation.