Select your proteges carefully -- Be there -- Know your proteges -- Expect excellence (and nothing else) -- Affirm, affirm, affirm, and then affirm some more -- Provide sponsorship -- Be a teacher and a coach -- Encourage and support -- Shape behavior using reinforcement -- Offer counsel in difficult times -- Protect when necessary -- Stimulate growth with challenging assignments -- Give proteges exposure and promote their visibility -- Nurture creativity -- Provide correction-even when painful -- Give the inside scoop -- Narrate growth and development -- Self-disclose when appropriate -- Accept increasing friendship and mutuality -- Teach faceting -- Be an intentional model -- Display dependability -- Exude warmth -- Listen actively -- Show unconditional regard -- Respect privacy and confidentiality -- Tolerate idealization -- Embrace humor -- Do not expect perfection -- Attend to interpersonal cues -- Be trustworthy -- Respect values -- Do not stoop to jealousy -- Carefully consider the "match" -- Clarify expectations -- Establish measureable goals -- Define relationship boundaries -- Consider protege relationship style -- Describe potential benefits and risks -- Be sensitive to gender -- Be sensitive to race and ethnicity -- Foster mentoring constellations -- Plan for change at the outset -- Schedule periodic reviews or evaluations -- Consider the consequences of being a mentor -- Practice self-care -- Be productive -- Resist cloning -- Make sure you are competent -- Hold yourself accountable -- Respect the power of attraction -- Accept the burden of power -- Practice humility -- Never exploit proteges -- Balance advocacy with gate-keeping -- Above all, do no harm -- Slow down the process -- Tell the truth -- Seek consultation -- Document carefully -- Dispute your irrational thinking -- Welcome change and growth -- Accept endings -- Find helpful ways to say goodbye -- Mentor as a way of life.
