Setting the scene. Introduction ; Establishing the context ; The study -- Getting started : caring for children in the preschool years. Introduction ; The "crossovers" : breadwinner mothers with partners at home ; "Shift-workers" and "Dual-dividers" : sharing earning, sharing caring -- The longer view : couples with school-age children. Introduction ; Challenges on the path to change ; Parents as peers -- Review and reflection. Introduction ; Parenting and undoing of gender -- Appendix. The study participants.